O marido
A Bíblia define o papel do marido com clareza: amar a esposa como Cristo amou a Igreja, ser fiel, protetor e líder servo no lar.
Amar como Cristo amou
Maridos, amai vossas mulheres como Cristo amou a Igreja e se entregou por ela. O amor do marido deve ser sacrificial e incondicional.
Ba’alim, have ahavah for your nashim, as also Rebbe, Melech HaMoshiach has ahavah for the Brit Chadasha Kehillah and gave Himself up on behalf of her,
So also the ba’alim ought to show ahavah for their own nashim as their own gufim; the one with ahavah for his own isha has ahavah for himself,
So also the ba’alim ought to show ahavah for their own nashim as their own gufim; the one with ahavah for his own isha has ahavah for himself, For no one ever had sin’as chinom for his own basar but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Rebbe, Melech HaMoshiach also does the Brit Chadasha Kehillah,
Each of you, however, should show ahavah for his isha as himself, and an isha should reverence her ba’al (husband).
Therefore, disrobed from Sheker (Falsehood, Lying), let us say HaEmes, each one with his re’a (neighbor), because we are evarim (members) one of another. Have ka’as and do not sin; do not let the shemesh go down on your anger. Do not leave an open door for HaSatan. Let the one stealing no longer be a ganav, but rather let the ganav get a parnasah (livelihood) and toil with his own hands at something beneficial, that he may have something to share with the one who is nitzrach (needy). Let no lashon hora proceed out of your peh, but only a dvar that is tov, for edification in accordance with the need, that it may mediate Chen v’Chesed Hashem to the ones hearing. And do not grieve the Ruach Hakodesh of Hashem, by whom you were sealed for the Yom HaGeulah. Let all merirut lev (bitterness) and ka’as and wrath and clamor and lashon hora be removed from you, with all resha. And have Chen v’Chesed graciousness with one another. Be kind, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, as also Hashem in Rebbe, Melech HaMoshiach forgave you.
Ba’alim, have ahavah for your nashim and do not be bitter against them.
Nashim (wives), make yourselves accountable to your ba’alim (husbands), as is proper in Adoneinu. Ba’alim, have ahavah for your nashim and do not be bitter against them.
And to all these things add ahavah, which is the agudah of tamimim.
Fidelidade conjugal
O casamento é honroso e o leito conjugal é santo. O marido deve ser fiel à esposa da sua juventude em pensamento e ação.
Let the marriage Chuppah have respect in the eyes of all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for those guilty of gilui arayot (sexual immorality) and no’afim (adulterers), Hashem will judge.
Drink mayim out of thine own bor (cistern),
and running waters out of thine own well.
Should thy fountains be dispersed abroad,
and channels of mayim in the rekhovot (town squares)?
Let them be only thine own,
and never zarim (strangers) with thee.
Let thy makor (fountain) be blessed;
and rejoice with the isha of thy youth.
Let her be as the loving deer and graceful doe;
let her breasts satisfy thee at all times;
and be thou enraptured tamid (ever) with ahavat (love of) her.
And why wilt thou, beni (my son), be intoxicated with a zarah (strange woman),
and embrace the kheyk (bosom) of a nochriyah (foreign [heathen] woman)?
But I say to you that everyone looking upon a woman with taavah (lust) for her has already committed niuf (adultery) with her in his heart.
But I say to you that everyone divorcing his wife, except for the DVAR (indecent thing) of zenut (fornication), makes her become a noefet (adulteress), and whoever marries a gerusha (divorcee) commits niuf (adultery).
So they are no longer shnayim (two) but basar echad (one flesh). Therefore, whatever Hashem joined together, let no man divide asunder.
Let the ba’al render the conjugal choiv (debt) to his isha, and likewise also the isha to her ba’al (husband). It is not the isha who has samchut (authority) over her own body, but the ba’al (husband); likewise, also it is not the ba’al (husband) who has samchut over his own body, but the isha.
Do not deprive each other, unless by agreement for a set time, that you may renew zerizut (diligence) to tefillah (prayer) and again you may be together, lest HaSatan lead you into nissayon (temptation) because of your lack of shlitah atzmi (self-control).
But to the ones having entered bibrit hanissuim (in covenant of marriage), I charge, not I but Rebbe, Melech HaMoshiach Adoneinu, an isha is not to separate from her ba’al (husband). But, if indeed she is separated, let her remain so, or be reconciled to her basherter; and a ba’al should not leave his isha.
But, to the rest I — Sha’ul — not Rebbe, Melech HaMoshiach Adoneinu, say: if any Ach b’Moshiach has an isha who is an Apikoros and she is willing to live with him, let him not leave her;
Flee zenut! "Every chet is outside the body," [you say]. But the one guilty of zenut commits chet against the body itself.
Convivência com sabedoria
O marido sábio vive com a esposa com entendimento, dando-lhe honra como co-herdeira da graça. A união conjugal reflete Cristo e a Igreja.
Likewise, Ba’alim (Husbands), dwell with them according to the da’as of the isha as a k’li rach (weaker vessel), showing them kavod as also being yoreshim together of the mattanah (gift) of the Chen v’Chesed HaChayyim, so that your tefillos will not be hindered.
Therefore shall an ish leave his av and his em, and shall cleave unto his isha: and they shall be basar echad.
Doing nothing according to anochiyut (selfishness) nor according to empty ga’avah (conceit, haughtiness, arrogance), but in anavah (humility), fergin (graciously grant) each other esteem above yourselves. Let each of you talmidim look after not only your own interests, but also the best interests of others.
Live joyfully with the isha whom thou lovest all the days of thy chayyei hevel, which he hath given thee under the shemesh, all the days of thy hevel; for that is thy chelek in this life, and in thy amal (toil) which thou laborest under the shemesh.
He who findeth an isha (wife) findeth tov,
and obtaineth ratzon (favor) from Hashem.
See that no one returns ra’ah for ra’ah, but always pursue haTov both for one another and for all.
And if it seem rah unto you to serve Hashem, choose you this day whom ye will serve; whether the elohim which Avoteichem served that were on the other side of the River, or the elohei HaEmori, in whose land ye dwell; but as for me and my bais, we will serve Hashem.
Do not become unequally yoked with koferim (unbelievers), for what shuttafut (partnership) has Tzedek with Lawlessness? Or where is the Brit (Covenant) between Ohr (light) and Choshech (darkness)?
Ahavah suffers long; ahavah is kind; ahavah does not have kinah; ahavah does not brag; ahavah is not puffed up in ga’avah (conceit, pride); ahavah does not behave shamelessly; ahavah does not in anochiyut insist on its own way; ahavah is not touchy and vindictive, keeping a record of wrongs. Ahavah does not find simcha in evil, but rejoices in HaEmes. Ahavah covers all things, believes all things, has tikvah (hope), even savlanut, for all things.